|My life motto. (Brene Brown, I don't know who created the photo.)|
I define vulnerability to mean putting oneself in the position where there is risk. This can be physical vulnerability (walking alone in a dangerous neighborhood after dark), emotional vulnerability (omfg I just told her I think she's cute omfg what is she going to say?!), and any other situation in which we put some aspect of ourselves on display or for the judgment of others.
In the doll hobby and the quest for attention and popularity, our lack thereof makes us feel shame, as if we are unworthy of belonging to and contributing to the hobby community. We've "failed" to become a super star, the pond's big fish, so we feel shame and unworthy. We feel we don't belong, that we don't deserve our dolls, that we'll never succeed, that we suck at photos or face ups or whatever. Chances are this isn't just the hobby you're feeling this in. I'd venture it's rearing its head in many other areas of your life, and you've just never had a name for it before.
Guilt isn't always a negative. Guilt is the social construct that helps humans behave in a way their society finds appropriate. primates have a deep need to belong. Being alone usually meant death. Modern society may not automatically have that life or death struggle for the most part, and being the lone weirdo doesn't mean you're going to starve to death when you're kicked out of the cave come winter, but it does create mental anguish, anxiety, and intense feelings of shame and loneliness.
A superiority complex is "an attitude of superiority that conceals actual feelings of inferiority and failure." (thanks Google Definitions). Basically, you act like an elitist ass because you feel the exact opposite of that. Someone with a superiority complex puts down others in an effort to seem more knowledgeable, experienced, or just "better" than others. It's pretty well known that intentionally shaming someone for their looks implies envy, shaming someone for the face up skills means you're better.
Brene Brown, a personal hero of mine, defines perfectionism this way: “Perfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: “If I look perfect, live perfectly, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.”
If I were to give into my feelings of shame and guilt, I'd rage quit the hobby. I felt ashamed, a little guilt, a little sadness, my ego was bruised, but I picked myself up and moved forward, thinking of new ideas.